Archive for October, 2009

Fingerless Gloves

Posted in Style on October 18, 2009 by SweetEnlow

The blog has been a little weak over the last week, but I have been swamped with mid-terms and my parents visiting this weekend.  I am sure you were all dying for an updated posts so for that I apologize.

Considering I live in upstate New York and have for the last 3 and 1/2 years, I consider myself savvy at handling extreme winters.  Also, I like when it gets cold because it allows me to accessorize.  In lieu of this accessorizing, I wanted to comment and suggest for this winter fingerless gloves.  I just purchased a pair last week and wore them this weekend receiving a fair amount of compliments. 

There are two types you can purchase.  There are the fingerless gloves that look like you cut the fingers yourself (shown below).  These are the type I prefer and of which I bought.  It gives me I think a nice eclectic flair to my usually fairly preppy attire.

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The other kind is the fingerless glove that has the piece that folds back and forth basically looking like an oven mitt.  These are fine for girls, but for guys I think they are kind of effeminate.  Here is a pair

my apologies on the scarf

my apologies on the scarf

Gloves are a great present in my opinion.  They are fairly cheap and will be used alot.  I personally got mine from Ralph Lauren’s Rugby.

Here is the link to and a picture of the Rugby pair…http://rugby.com/shop/item.aspx?productId=3757367&categoryId=3138720&cp=3138868

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Fashion Respekk Typo

Posted in Style on October 16, 2009 by SweetEnlow

Very quickly

I just wanted to point out a typo I had in my earlier “Fashion Respekk” post.  I mentioned in the parentheses that if someone chooses to wear nice dress shoes that they hopefully make them square toe black shoes.  I did this by forgetting to add a negation in the sentence.

Nothing is worse… let me repeat… nothing is worse than square toe black dress shoes.  Cheap, terrible structure, and almost always terrible quality, these shoes are an abomination.  When this New York hipster friend-of-mine  I know called me out on it, I immediately had to laugh at myself because had I actually meant that statement, no one should ever read my blog again…period.  I will post more soon on shoes in the future, but for now I just wanted to save my dignity. 

Shout out to my hipster for the service…

Letters to a Young Contrarian

Posted in Books on October 14, 2009 by SweetEnlow

I recently read Christopher Hitchen’s Letters to a Young Contrarian and, needless to say, I was (like most all Hitchen’s stuff) extremely stimulated.  I tend to be an asshole a large majority of the time, thus the fact that this book was based around Hitchen’s belief that one has to live “at an acute angle to society” appealed directly to me. 

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I am by no means a book critique for the NYT that will give you some Über-intellectual analysis, but I do know for a fact that I can pick winners – meaning that I have the ability to recognize a great product.  As with most Hitchens books/articles, this book is a clear example of the author’s desire to be a powerful polemic, and he undoubtedly succeeds in creating a winner with this one.

To briefly give you the highlights, Hitchen’s book is about dissidence and the need for one to embrace it.  He poses this basic question throughout the book, “why do people feel like they have to be apart?”  I have asked myself this question many times during arguments and have never really formulated a great answer.  Clearly being apart is safer, and in some cases more powerful, but I don’t personally feel like it’s the most satisfying way to live life.  Certainly you lack any type of uniqueness.  Thus, if one does happen to be in realm of individuality with their opinions, one should embrace rather than fear their solitude – consensus is not necessarily the highest good (Hitchens). 

Obviously being a “Contrarian” revolves around argument.  The book’s most powerful theme I feel is summarized in this quote, “In life we make progress by conflict and in mental life by argument and disputation.”  This book completely changed my approach to the idea of arguing.  Often times with close family and friends, I would simply cut the thread on arguments because I was uncomfortable and did not like creating tension between the people I loved – leave that for the people I already did not like.  Now, however, I embrace it (as all should) because if the argument is carried out appropriately, it will leave each side changed for the better – whether that sharpens the original or causes one to change their opinion.  “Only an open conflict of ideas/principles can produce clarity… it may be painful, but painless solutions do not exist.” 

I want to state for all my friends that the reason I argue is that if I allow you to believe in a ridiculous proposition, then, eventually, you will cease to be my friend at all.  I think everyone can relate to this either through friends or girlfriends/boyfriends.  Different beliefs/approaches to life are always the catalyst for a relationship to end.  Luckily, I have not reached this point in any of my close relationships, but, unfortunately, I am sure I will. 

That being said, always listen to the other sides argument… Ignorant and Stubborn is no way to go through life

Regardless, It’s a great book and its short… so no excuses Easley

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Fashion Respekk

Posted in Style on October 13, 2009 by SweetEnlow

I spent this last weekend with two of my closest friends, Baby and Bru, in NYC.  It was an incredible weekend filled with just about everything that is awesome about New York: Beautiful women, great food, hipsters.  However, this post is not going to detail the weekend, but rather talk about a few noticeable fashion faux pas that I saw during my weekend. 

1.  The cargo short

I am at a loss for explanation on this topic.  I know that for some unforeseen reason these ridiculous things became popular in the late 90’s.  However, their time has passed.  Unfortunately, their appearance is like a ghost haunting the streets of every city in the US.  My own father wears these sometimes and I just have to shake my head.  This “trend” may be to blame on stores like Hollister, Abercrombie, and Aeropostale, but ultimately it falls on the consumer.  Either way, my biggest issue with the Cargo Short is that the solution is sooooo simple – one could simply buy normal (by normal I mean one without the sweet side pockets) khaki short of any color for basically the same price.  This is predominantly why I blame this epidemic on the aforementioned stores because they consistently stock their supply with cargos.  Unfortunately, a large majority of men shop at these hellholes, thus taking the logical route that cargoes must be acceptable… they are not.  Just go to the GAP or J.Crew and buy normal shorts (have them stop above the knee please).  You look exponentially better.  I personally prefer to buy 5” Khaki shorts from J.Crew – they are extremely short, but look very good with muscular legs.  Also, I think it looks pretty good if you take some old khaki’s, cut them to about a 7” inseam, and then wash them.  A nice homemade frayed pair of khaki shorts.

Nobody has gotten a hand job in cargo shorts since ‘nam!

- Seth Superbad

2.  Lugz

Where I am from, (the extremely fashion forward scene of Oklahoma) this unfortunate sight does not exist… thank god.  However, this epidemic resounds throughout every corner of New York (and most of the Northeast I presume, except I think they prefer Tims).  The epidemic I am speaking of is the Lugz boot showing.  Someone needs to let New Yorkers know that a matching Yankee hat and hoodie equipped with oversized jeans is already bad enough.  The bright yellow Lugz (which I tend to find is highly repped by the overweight late 20’s white guy) showing just compounds the “terribleness”

3.  White Socks

The importance of white socks in sartorial terms is entirely underrated.  The time to wear white socks is, well, never.  Simply put, unless one is heading to the gym (even though I don’t even wear white socks there), white socks should never be worn.  Often time’s I have seen attempts by young gentleman to attempt to excel in their approach to dressing themselves, yet fail miserably with the white socks saga.  Here is a great example I have seen multiple times.  A young fellow decides he wants to visit a club and decides that a black shirt over dark jeans is appropriate.  He closes the outfit with his choice of shoes (hopefully it’s not some black sqauretoe’s).  He looks adequately crisp.  Quickly, he reaches down to adjust his pants and all of the sudden his ankle reveals white ankle length socks.  His attempt to look fresh is done…over. 

The rules of socks are ambiguous, but here are a few quick fail-safe suggestions; opt to not wear socks a majority of the time, especially in the summer.  If you are someone who could care less about socks, (insert any number of my close friends here) buy some cheap colored socks at the GAP or wherever and use them appropriately.  I honestly feel that a failed attempt to match socks with the rest of the attire looks substantially better than white socks.  As one’s cash flow increases, one should choose to stock their closet with a substantial supply of high-end socks.  I once read that Thom Brown wears the same thing (grey suit) just about every day, yet is an advocate of eclectic sock choices.   He is a great example of a man who alters his style only slightly (socks and ties) and yet maintains a great look. 

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 Ya, Jake and Elwood Blues were proponents of White Socks

 

Just think about it

Vibram’s Five Fingers

Posted in Health on October 8, 2009 by SweetEnlow

I recently received my latest product in my attempt to better my physical condition.  Not a shocker here but they were originally mentioned to me about 9 months ago by the ever progressive Baby, but, in addition, one of my health guru’s who I highly respect, Mark Sisson, proclaimed that they are absolutely essential to his workout.  They are Vibram’s Five Finger shoes and they are incredible.  Here is a picture of the basic model:

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The basic premise is that it allows one to train essentially barefooted.  For me particularly, it makes entirely too much sense to not train in these.  I consistently roll (wrestle/jiu jitsu) and box/muay thai approximately 5 days a week participating barefoot the entire time.  In addition, advocates of the primal lifestyle (Baby, myself, IVYMurph) love to constantly train in a setting that best represents our ancestors.  Training barefoot thus becomes essential.  There are so many nerves, muscles, bones, and tendons involved in your feet that it should be pretty clear that stimulating these sensory receptors/body parts is beneficial for your health.

Here are a few quick facts and studies done on vibram’s (this is all taken from the vibram website):

  • Time named the shoe one of the best inventions of 2007
  • Vibram was inspired to create these shoes based off studies that show our current choice of shoes, particularly to train in, are actually weakening our feet and causing us to become more susceptible to injury
  • The fact that there is no heel helps align spine and increase proper posture

In addition to the websites stated benefits, I personally like training barefooted simply because it feels more organic.  I just feel better about the particular workout.  This is entirely a personal feeling, but I know IvyMurph feels very similar.

I have become fairly obsessed with health after a substantial stint of not caring; luckily I grew out of that immaturity.  This product can and will increase your overall well-being.  Check them out

Ps… people will stare at you in the gym and will undoubtedly ask you questions…

 

And hippies love these shoes…organic

Eyeliner

Posted in Style on October 7, 2009 by SweetEnlow

I mentioned in my “about” section that I love style/fashion – whatever you choose to call it.  I have good taste, as do my parents, and I love to comment on any current trends as well as what I think is tight.  Thus, keep an eye out for future posts concerning these topics.

In addition, I, for some reason, like girl’s style as much as guys.  A girl having good taste and dressing well is extremely important to me (obviously more of a luxury than a necessity).  “ClassicSexy” with a bit of eclectic flair I guess is how I would describe my desire for my woman’s taste – similar to Sarah Jessica Parker’s except substantially less extreme.  Lots of high heels, dresses, etc… not really a big fan of women wearing UGGS (how did these even become popular?), hoodies, Chuck Taylors, or “scrunchies” to name a few.  Do some creative thinking and you get my point I think…

As I mentioned, I like girls to look sexy.  Thus, I want to comment on my particular preference for eyeliner on a woman (ya, this blog is about everything).  Simply put, I like a lot.  When I tell girls my personal preference I usually almost always receive an immediate response sounding something like “O that’s trashy,” or some other reference to the fact that they think they are somehow better than girls who wear eyeliner “in that way” (we all know what I am talking about here).  Well, I hate to break it to you, but if anyone is calling you any kind of derogatory name, it’s not because of your eyeliner.  It is, and I know this is a shock, probably caused by your actions and/or your character…

I am going to give a couple examples of what I like in eyeliner preferences and see what you think…

With blondes, I like when girls use black to contrast their hair (and a lot of times their lighter colored eyes).  That being said, take a look at Marissa Miller here.

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Ya… clearly… she’s beautiful… no question.  In my opinion, probably the second best looking out there behind my girl Heidi (but she trounces Gisele).  Anyways, just spotlight her eyes in this particular picture.  Now, look at her in this one

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Clearly, this may be a sexier picture for obvious reasons.  But after the initial response, I immediately noticed her eyes.  Good Lord.  She looks exponentially sexier with the heavy black on.

With Brunettes, I continue to like the contrasting look.  Don’t get me wrong, I still like the heavy black, but sometimes when Brunettes accent the black with a pastel eye shadow its looks sooooooooooo dope (see Rihanna).  Even though I don’t think Megan Fox is as incredible as everyone else, she undoubtedly has the concept of “sex appeal” down.  She doesn’t really need to do much with black hair and blue eyes, but here is a good shot of her “cat eye” style.  Just another way to apply it

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Lastly, here is a good one of Rihanna using something besides black

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I know this is all preference, but considering my audience is a lot of guys, maybe this will help provide a better understanding of what I am talking about. 

Lastly, I will close commenting on two things.  The first is that, especially to girls, I know the concept of wearing eyeliner to increase sex appeal is not in any way a novel concept.  The Ancient Egyptians, both women and men, were using Kohl powder (same thing) thousands of years ago.  However, I think it’s important to clarify (at least from my perspective) that it does not equate to a negative.  With me, it’s a positive… so start lathering it on.  Secondly, I realize that some guys either never notice it or simply don’t like this type of dress/style.  I have had to hear my dad talk for years about how he likes what he calls “the Montana look” – basically, no makeup, hair in a braided pony tail, and wranglers.  I couldn’t disagree more (unless it’s appropriate for something of course …. Like if I somehow decide to take my girl on a ruck march… you know me), but… 

 

To each his (or her) own I guess

Miami Inspired Films

Posted in Movies on October 5, 2009 by SweetEnlow

I recently traveled to Miami with two of my boyz in which I had an awesome trip.  The details of the trip may be posted another time, but considering the editing I would have to do, I think it might be pretty lame so… maybe not

Anyways, I was reflecting upon my South Beach experience and I thought of two highly entertaining documentaries that one might enjoy revolving around Miami.

1.  The Year of the Bull.

I actually haven’t seen the entire documentary, but the ten minute clip on youtube is amazing. Baby called me one day and demanded I immediately drop everything I am doing and go watch this edited clip on youtube.  I can’t recall why I wasn’t able to actual go view the short clip, but it was a mistake waiting the hours that I did.  The clip was mesmerizing.  It left me having this strange mixture of charged-up emotion and paternalistic love. 

In short, it’s about Dade County’s (I think its Dade county) high school Northwestern and their football program. 

Here is the link to the clip…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6s23JTmfJOY

2.  Cocaine Cowboys

I have only seen this once about 2 years ago, but it was great.  It’s about the rise of the cocaine trade in Miami in the late 70’s and early 80’s.  It is somewhat similar to George Jung’s account in the movie Blow.  The amount of money those guys were making was incredible and it was so easy for them.  When I was visiting Miami, all I could think about was the section in the documentary that proclaimed that the Miami skyline, infrastructure, waterways… Basically the city itself was built on coke money.  The reason being was that, as the main character comments on, everyone from doctors, to politicians, to judges, to lawyers were involved in the coke trade.  To me at least, it was vastly entertaining.

A Great Characteristic

Posted in Lifestyle on October 4, 2009 by SweetEnlow

Even though Belle and I currently aren’t speaking, the desire to write this post was inspired by her… Something she did so well

So I dated Belle for 7 years approximately.  Due to the duration, I consider myself a relative expert in relationships…. Especially since I’m only 22 years old. 

As I am walking the absurdly difficult route at school to get my car on Friday this post sprung into my mind like an epiphany.  It really wasn’t an epiphany I realized though because I have talked about this for years.  I was reflecting on my home life, how much better it was then my current setting, and how great of experience I had in high school.  Great friends, hottest/coolest girl in school etc… (what happened right?!?)

I was thinking about what my favorite activity to participate in in high school was and it was a pretty easy pick.  The basic premise is this: me just kicking it with all my best friends, and my ol’ lady (maybe she could have a friend or two… buts that just me being nice to her… it wasn’t the ideal)… usually lots of beer and hopefully good weather.  A lot of times this  took place in my backyard…. Meaning a couple things…

  • I could access my bed any time I desired… whether that be to sleep or other things…
  • I determined the pace of the evening
  • Being that it was high school, nobody was going to get in trouble at my house because my parents are dope
  • I DJ-ed

my house was and is still tight.

Anyways, as I thought more and more about the idea, I realized how awesome Belle was for being able to do that.  She wasn’t awesome because she was sacrificing herself to do it… like it was a pain.  Girl straight-up enjoyed herself; she voluntarily participated because she wanted to (it also helped that my friends all loved her and she’s fun, sexy, dresses well etc…)  What I then realized was that none of my other friend’s girls could even come close to being able to do this.  They were all cool, but under no circumstance would they be able to handle the same situation.  They would either sit there in the corner acting awkward, not participating, or, they would contribute and would just be entirely out of step with current situation (there is of course those times when those girls were around and we relentlessly  teased them like vultures) .

So, the basic point of this post is that I feel that, if a girl is able to partake in a situation like this and do it right, then it is an extremely powerful sign that you, to be colloquial, might want to hang on to that one.  Clearly it shows she has a great personality.  But I think it’s also a great indicator of things that might be in the future.  For example, you know hosting parties at your house will be legit.  You know that attending your kid’s events, regardless of how bad they might be, would be entertaining at the least, if not awesome. Basically, it’s a great indicator that coming home to this person would be an enjoyable experience because, as my lecherous uncle once told me, to be in a relationship you actually really need to like the person… as a person, not just as your girlfriend or wife.  Hands down the smartest thing that guy has ever said

It isn’t an axiom of relationship success, but it’s pretty awesome to have a girl who can roll like this…

D’Angelo – spoke a tad too soon

Posted in Musik on October 4, 2009 by SweetEnlow

Ok -so the other day I made a post about how awesome I thought D’Angelo was as an artist.  But, I made the point to say that he hasn’t put out anything since Voodoo in 2000.  The post must have unconsciously caused me to search D’Angelo and I came upon his newest song that he released in ’08.  I really don’t know how I missed it.  It is entitled “I found my smile again” and I honestly think it might be his best song he has ever done (this could also be from the “newness” of the song to me”… I havnt decided yet).  His lyrics are always tight and he hits on a lot of good relationship stuff that I can relate to.  In any way, it is a great song and definitely one that everyone should check out.  Spotlight his blues riffs he has throughout the song…awesome

Here’s a link to make it easy for you … just me working for you

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aP7nlYZN1fA

The Hasty Response and My Version of Modern Day Etiquette

Posted in Lifestyle on October 3, 2009 by SweetEnlow

I have been relatively single here for about a year and a half and I have, to put it mildly, experienced many aspects of the single life.  I have had everything from the sloppy “one-nighter” to the straight-up rejection… followed by the walk away of embarrassment – whatever… it’s all part of the experience.  That being said, I am dedicating this post to my own version of modern day etiquette revolving around the text message (but also with the call back and email as well…same rules apply).

We have all been there when we have either given or received a number.  Usually if one is to get a number at a completely platonic locale i.e. a grocery store or book store, then this doesn’t really apply because the person is definitely interested.  However, I am talking about the (most of the time) drunk number exchange.  With guys at least, a lot of times this consists of entering the girl into the phone as a nickname… or, in some cases, just a random letter.  In fact, just last weekend, one of my boyz had the number exchange (based on the fact that he was intrigued by her freckles no less) where he entered the girl as “redhead.”  You get the type of situation taking place here I hope…

Either way, countless times I have participated in the number exchange and a majority of the time I find myself annoyed.  I am annoyed due to the lack of haste in the response to a text or call.  Here’s the deal, I know I am a relatively good looking guy (vanity…holla) and, more importantly, I know I am fun.  Thus, when a girl gives me her number, I know she is interested (usually).  So, it drives me crazy when I tell them I will get in touch the next day, usually through text, and, when I do, it’s like 3 hours between text exchanges.  In the modern day and age, I know the girl is literally not one foot away from her phone the entire time.  It’s no longer an excuse to say you didn’t have your phone b/c we all know that’s not true.  It seems to be some conscious obnoxious choice to not respond immediately… as if it looks too interested.  Newsflash, I got your number because I am interested, thus, when I contact you, I am hoping for a return of interest.  If I didn’t, I wouldn’t have even bothered texting.   Quit being juvenile and give a damn response.  I swear to god I would prefer this from the girl “Look, I was drunk last night… I just gave you my number because you were pressuring me and I wanted you to leave me alone… so please don’t text/call me again” than a no response.  And I am pretty sure every guy I am friends with feels the same way. 

In addition, if someone calls you, they are sending you a signal that they want to speak in person… for whatever reason. That being the case, don’t be the jackass who responds immediately to the call with a damn text (granted there are exceptions like if you are calling your friends to see where they are and they respond with something like “we are outside” or you are in a movie or in the car with your parents or something …).  I don’t really understand this concept and here’s why; if someone doesn’t want to talk, they can easily end the conversation at their desire.  It is not like they are forced to stay on the phone.  Just tell them you have to go for whatever reason and go.  The text response to the phone call is just stating that whoever the person contacting you is, he/she isn’t worth your effort to actual speak to.

Here are my guidelines as to what I think is approrpiate:

  • Respond to a text in haste.  If you are not interested, let them know (if you’re worried about being rude, just be creative and get your point across i.e. “well, I might want to hang out with you sometime soon, but I am moving tomorrow and I have to see my grannie etc etc etc…) the guy is automatically going to get the point, and since you weren’t rude, he won’t be mean or awkward the next time he sees you
  • Every time a phone call is given and missed, it should be returned.  The “no-call back” is rude and unnecessary.
  • An email should be responded to at the latest of 48 hours.  Same for facebook messages.  Everybody knows you have checked your stuff at least once in that time.  For example, I sent this absurdly good looking girl who I have never even spoken to from vanderbilt a fbook message (I hope she reads this) a while back (it consisted of just ridiculous vernacular… me joking around etc…) and she thought she was simply too cool to respond.  I can just see her showing her 6 roommates in her wack sorority house the message being like “OMG, who messages people on fbook when they don’t know you… creeper!!!!  I hope I see her one day so I can just AMOG her and then make her love me… tworking at its finest.  But the bottom line is, nobody is that cool to not respond.  Nassim Taleb, arguably the smartest guy in finance and someone I highly respect, openly states that he responds to emails from so-called “nobodies” before “big-tymers.”  This is one of the, if not the most, desired mind in America, and he maintains that he responds to everyone.   That is telling…
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