Relationships
I spent a crazy weekend in Boston with Strike Force Alpha visiting IvyMurph. It was a blast. The last day we were there happened to be Valentine’s day and the common theme amongst many were the topics surrounding V-day – namely relationships.
I consider myself rather relationship savvy. I have experienced the entire gamut of the relationship spectrum – heartbreak, apathy, jealousy, love, disgust. All the emotions…
That being said, V-day got me reflecting on two very important aspects of relationships that I feel most fail to entirely comprehend.
The first is the idea that proper interest in one another is the only necessity to protect oneself against infidelity and/or heartbreak. To put it another way, if someone really wants to be with you, nothing and/or no one is going to alter this feeling. Often times people stress themselves over their significant others desire(s). Questions arise – Are they interested in someone else? Are they cheating on me?? Why are they texting this other person? Etc…
Sure, It is understandable why people do this, but what I am trying to point out is that there is, in fact, no need to be jealous; your significant other will clearly indicate their particular feelings. They may display total interest flying across the country to be with you, or they may be tepid to where just getting them alone is a pain in the ass. Whatever the case, expect actions by them that are in accordance with their feelings.
Either way, chill… relationships will work if they are supposed to and you should let it be an organic process – no forcing
The second idea deals with the “breakup.” Everyone has been broken up with (or simply rejected) and it sucks – no doubt about it. But all need to understand that they are getting rejected or dumped for a reason. That being the case, do not be the person who tries to beg and plead for them to stay with you. I write this not because I am opponent of people who are obsessively in love and think their desire is ridiculous, but rather because a relationship where one wants out and the other doesn’t simply does not work. A relationship has to be approached and appreciated equally by both partners, or it simply will not work. Take the heartbreak, apply some logic to love, embrace your newly found single life, and save some of your dignity.
Hate to be bleak surrounding a supposed “sweet” holiday, but hopefully I am providing some value and insight into a no doubt complicated topic.
